I own both and both have only **** games right now and it will stay like that for the next 4 month, so when it comes to games both suck. Ryse looks better than Killzone tho, hate on.
But I control my TV and cable with my voice and it works great so right now Xbox wins.
For the controller, yes the middle "X" button should light up. You press it and it turns the controller on and the button should light up.
Speaking of controllers, the PS4 controllers are a big step back, why did they change the sticks so you slide off with your fingers now??????