I read what quantanomad wrote and i find several things disturbing.
First, joining the best guild you can find has nothing to do with that best guild being the one raiding the highest tier or raid.
Guildies are the ones you can play with, not the ones having the most developed characters.
So if your guild mates can't even be bothered to run old dungeons or low level ones, if all they do is farming T4 and that's it, then i'm sorry to say you joined the worst guild possible.
Second, the issues you encounter have nothing to do with the game itself.
If it was related to the game, then the same situation would occur on Crom for instance.
It does not.
All in all, it's sad to hear that newbies have such a hard time in some servers, but hopefully this situation will be over when the merge happens.
Just wait for it, join Crom, and play with people here.